treelot

Is it only a problem with your novelty race or with other races as well? What trouble shooting have you done?

I sometimes get the "Could not find" warning as well. I often find exiting out and reloading fixes it. Skyrim has a little issue where it sometimes loads before it fully runs programs. It is not recommended to play, and especially not to save, games with error notices. This is more likley if you have big, complex, slow processing mods and a fast, modern computer which doesn't give all the mods time to run before it dumps them. If a restart doesn't clear it, then try fiddling with your install order like Supersaiyangoku84 suggested above.

Your idea to have goalposts for increasing her willingness makes sense, but you may want to add some minor 'help' options so she has the potential to become interested in the character during a non-dragonborn run. Have her mourning default to 2 years and divide the time in half for each 'help' offered *AFTER* the conclusion of the vanilla quest line. So the first 'help' drops the time to 1 year; a second 'help' to six months; athird 'help' to three months; have the 'fourth help' make her suspicious, but add in a persuasion dialogue where she questions to PC to see if they just want *HER* or if they have paid attention and participated in dialogue enough to 'know' the answers to some of her (and her sons) background -- then the result is either 45 days or never willing. Lastly, have a fifth 'help' to be the PC noticing a rival who is an old friend of hers. Have her mention how much she loathed men because of her ex, but the PC and her friend from childhood have proven 'at least some men' can be trusted AND that she'd be forever lost if she were to lose either. Have the rival have a few quests/needs and let the PC earn the rivals friendship and then promote the PC to Grosta. With the approval of the friend, she reduces her willingness to one month - which may have already passed with 6 stage quest for her and at least 2 or 3 for the friend. PS... don't have the friend visit her like a creeper Faendal creeps on Camilla.