Update: I totally uninstalled everything. copied and moved my saves and deleted all that too. I then reinstalled, set my graphics up to ultra since like i had said it doesn't know what my card is for some reason. Loaded up a test save with known mods and everything went fine. installed the rest of my mods and everything went fine then after a hour or so booted out of the game but was able to get right back in. I was up till 1 am playing and I am about to head to work but loaded my game to see and it came up. I am not sure now if it was a bad mod install or what but something corrupted my game files and there is something still not 100% right. I'll take my laptop to work so I can check in to see if anyone replies with some insight as to what might be in conflict.