@treota First, thank you thank you thank you for responding. I've been just about pulling my hair out trying to figure out what I'm missing. Second, I tried your first suggestion and it didn't change anything. I've attached copies of the xmls I'm using for cbbe and the wig so you can take a look at them. Looking at the cbbe xml again I notice that it has
<per-triangle-shape name="CBBE">
<margin>0.0</margin>
<prenetration>0.2</prenetration>
<tag>body</tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>body</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>Labia</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>Genitals</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>MaleBody</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>Lbreast</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>Rbreast</no-collide-with-tag>
<no-collide-with-tag>Belly</no-collide-with-tag>
</per-triangle-shape> all ready. I've also tried copying this part into the hair xml, it didn't do anything as far as I could see so I removed it. However while I was testing your suggestion I found this in my hdtSSEPhysics.log
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(162,2):Shape hair has unsupport vertex format 45a00030210046
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(163,3):unknown element - margin
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(164,3):unknown element - priority
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(165,3):unknown element - prenetration
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(166,3):unknown element - tag
[Mon Mar 26 17:09:51 2018]WARNING: data\MESHES\KS_HDT_SMP\HDTHair.xml(167,3):unknown element - no-collide-with-tagI'm assuming both that I've been missing it throw this error the whole time, and that this is what is causing my problem. Does this mean my problem is in the wig mesh itself?