I've been looking for a fix forever, and i've never had this problem with past Bethesda games and we'd have heard about it from skyrim. So what's different? Glad to hear according to Jaid that this is a vanilla problem.
Really miss those Hot-files mouse-over description boxes telling me a bit more about a mod before I even have to navigate away from the home page, makes judging mods at a glance possible.
For me i'll only play as a dude for any play style because it helps me connect and i mostly play a 'realistic' setting. I have made female chars but just to.. ahem, test some mods.