I seem to have fixed it. I think when I did a setstage command suggested on steam that I cannot now find. it involved prid and preston garvey. for future reference, what text file lists all your mods? I thought it would be in an .ini and can't find where it is. I had no settlemnt attacks and unintalling that took the preston garvey setstage command. grr that I I can't find it for the next person who might have this issue but that worked. not instanly. I was pissed, did not think it worked, took in game rest, was about to do something else, and garvey just walked up and was like "WASSSUP! QUESTS!" I paraphrase. thanks jimmy for reply