You can't just swap them, that's not how it works. The model would have to be resized and repositioned to fit the male head, and skinned to the male skeleton. Based on the DAI tools, importing a custom mesh like that may never be possible. You'll need to wait a couple of months to see how the MEA tools develop. At this juncture, it would be unwise to expect more than was possible with DAI, which means at best you could manipulate the vertices of existing meshes. In practice, that pretty much means no long hair for males.