So i married the Empress

[Cesarjito]

I used console commands to make the empress not be the leader of her clan and then lower her age to 36 so i could marry her but what ever i do i can't get Ira to leave her clan and join mine i dont want to kill my step-daughter is there any command i can use to force her to leave her clan every time i try to convience her she says she's not willing to abandon who ever the current leader is.

[madr00ky]

Use https://www.nexusmods.com/mountandblade2bannerlord/mods/1393 and https://www.nexusmods.com/mountandblade2bannerlord/mods/3121

for almost full control over your marriages.

But this will not help to undo the broken marriage, hope you have a safe before you started your marriage plans.