Real life versus internet

[Thanodai]

John Gabriel's Greater Internet F-Wad Theory. I'd link it, but you know, language and all that. Google it. I think he sums it up nicely.

 

-T-

[gandalftw]

I also think the reason people flame, is because they take a statement and flip-flop it around so it becomes an insult directed at them. I think they want sympathy from others, but end up burning themselves in in the end. A Flamer might take a sentence like "I really don't see why some people are so inconsiderate of others," but hear (or read, in this case) it as, "Why are you so greedy and selfish, you stupid noob?!" They will take the sentence and twist it around, until it is a personal insult.

 

 

Exactly gman021 and kudos back at ya.,flamers also can chase away those that are vulnerable to insults directed at them.A person may make a mistake in understanding a forum topic and

someone decides to point it out in a negative or less than understanding way.To attack someone for a mistake is ridiculous unless you know the person and it's done in a friendly manner.I sometimes misinterpret a comment but i allow for the probability that i may be mistaken.I'm not going to go all crazy on someone that may have not meant any harm.

[gandalftw]

@Thanodai

John Gabriel's Greater Internet F-Wad Theory. I'd link it, but you know, language and all that. Google it. I think he sums it up nicely.

Very funny and unfortunately true.

[Thanodai]

@Thanodai

John Gabriel's Greater Internet F-Wad Theory. I'd link it, but you know, language and all that. Google it. I think he sums it up nicely.

Very funny and unfortunately true.

It certainly is that. :) In both regards. :(

 

I honestly don't think flamers, trolls and all-around internet a-holes are socially unstable or have any kind of emotional or mental problems (at least no more than anyone else). I feel that it's just people using the anonymity of the internet to harass and insult in an abnormally horrific manner.

 

Anonymity can give people the feeling of invincibility. They can say whatever they want and essentially get away with it. The worst thing that can possibly happen is they'll get banned. At which point they migrate to other forums within the community, or go poke their head in on a new one. And unfortunately, no matter how much we erase their words online, once some one has been hurt by them, they won't be erased in the mind of the person that was hurt. Even if forgotten for a time, they're always remembered.

 

Until we can physically bash the s**t out of some one who has a complete disregard for courtesy and social protocol on the internet they will continue to harass, annoy and engage in general douchebaggery.

 

-T-

 

-Edited for grammar to better clarify-

[Landsknecht]

People act ruder on the internet because of the anonymity a username gives. If you insult someone anonymously, there is nothing they can do to you, and even here, the worst thing that can happen is being banned. However, if you insult someone in person, they have the ability to assault you, and here in the US, it is possible for them to shoot you; this proves the saying "an armed society is a polite society." Even without insulting someone to their face, without insulting them anonymously, they can sue you for libel/slander depending on the circumstances. (In other words, I agree with Thanodai) Of course, there is not reason to have hurt feelings since it is only the internets, i.e. some random jerk hiding behind a computer.

 

The level of anonymity is the main reason I think people are rude on the internet, but there is also a minor reason why people seem rude, and it is unintentional. Most people type what they would say, and without tone of voice, people seem rude.

 

With all this said, I can only think of the classic statement, "Internet. Serious business."

[Kresselack]

I try to be as kind as possible when using the internet, but people still shout in my face. It seems being kind is not very helpful. The forums here are like a safe house for civilized beings.

[Thanodai]

I try to be as kind as possible when using the internet, but people still shout in my face. It seems being kind is not very helpful. The forums here are like a safe house for civilized beings.

I agree completely, but that's also because the mods are so good at nipping things like that in the bud. Unfortunately it becomes nescessary once in a while to pull out the ban stick. Most other forums I go to are very poorly regulated or not at all.

 

Should check out killingifrit.com, those boards are a flaming drama fest. Ebaumsworld and cracked.com are others. I do like coming here because everything is kept civilized.

 

-T-

[stephanie]

I think people should act civilized no matter where they are. Real life versus Internet should not make a difference. "Attention Whores" (RL or Net) are easily spotted. In RL I tend to ignore and stay away from them. Internet "Attention Whores" are easy to spot too .. Just look at a persons posts, post count, and join date to find out if the person is:

 

An "Attention angel" posts in a topic even if the post is off topic. Making illogical arguments, just to be arguing. Flaming. Pretending to be something you're not. Having several User Accounts at the same Forum Site. (and on and on)

 

I can also generally tell if someone has a "Real Life" by looking at their post count and join date.

 

If your post count is high and you joined the forums recently, you might not have a real life.

 

If you post mostly in the Off Topic Forums, and in the nonsense threads there, you might not have a real life.

 

If most of your posts consist of "OMG!" and smilies, or you double-post a lot, and make other simple responses that just run up your post count for no really good reason, you might not have a real life. (and you also might be an "Attention angel") ...

 

Actually, posting in a topic like this makes all of us suspect ... *grins*

 

*runs off to find out where I lost my 'Real Life'*

:)

[Jntk]

i would say most people who act like idiots on the internet are just people who need to blow off some steam somewhere where people don't know them.

[Javalin]

In Response to the Opening post of this thread

 

Social Losers.?

 

 

You have absolutely no idea how shallow and egotistical that sounds.

 

You say people are "Social Losers" because they are constantly attached to the internet, never leave their house, never talk to people. Skip School/Work or whatever.

 

 

Maybe there is a reason for it? Maybe they are getting bullied, which is why they are that way.

 

 

I know many people who are afraid to leave their home because of these bullies in Real Life. The Internet is just another way to get away from that, without talking to anybody.

 

You say, adults behave like they are in kindergarten - My point exactly, maybe they just isolate themselves from others because they are scared of them?

 

People Answering: Lol? - Honestly, I don't know why. There is some guy at my college who is the same age as me (I'm 19) and he is probably the most insecure person I've ever met. Reason being, he was bullied so much at school, that he is very jumpy when somebody goes up to him and tries to speak to him, or if they look him in the eye as they walk past.

 

I remember playing a game of Call of Duty 4 on Xbox Live with him once. and everytime he killed someone he said "Owned" on the mic.

 

As far as I'm aware, he hasn't kissed a girl in his life, due to all of the low-life scum bags that bullied him. - He's 18 years old, and has never kissed a girl in his life, let alone had a girl friend? I really do feel sorry for the guy.

 

But just because he was bullied, alot, they made him a nervous wreck. Does that mean he is a 'Social Loser'?

 

Personally, After being stabbed Three years ago, I know EXACTLY what its like to be afraid to leave the house. I never ventured very far away from my house for about a month or two because I was afraid that it would happen again. I was just 16 years old.

Did that make me a social loser at the point?

 

 

I know to a point, I haven't exactly paid much attention to the rest of that, but I just don't agree with the way you would say "Social Losers" or whatever.

 

I would like you to rethink about your post, before you go posting such comments again.

 

I'll write a short response about my opinion. In my life as is right now, its not exactly a happy place, nor is it worth committing suicide over. Though things can be bad, I don't flame others on the internet.

 

When it comes to internet friends and real life friends, I try to seperate them. For example, if I met someone on the Nexus, I wouldn't contact them over the phone. In a way, I sometimes visualize the person as they are portrayed in their avatar. For example, I picture Stampede as being a minotaur, and Alienslof as being a male high elf. lol

 

I seperate my real life friends from my online friends also. I'll never judge any of them, for any means.

 

I care about them, even if I don't know them personally.

 

 

I've only ever gave my number to 1 person who I met online.. But later found out who she actually was, and found out that it was someone who is very close, and is very dear to me - So technically, does that count as giving my number to someone online? Hmm..

 

So, would you portray me as my avatar? (I Don't need an Avatar)

 

Kind Regards,

 

Jav'