myrmaad Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Well, this was probably mentioned already (I only skimmed the posts) but one reason could be anonymity...anonyminitity... anonyminininity... whatever! I don't mean to sound stereotypical here but if someone knows that there is nothing you can do about what they're saying they'll probably say it. I'm sure everyone has been guilty of this at least ONCE during their time online. You think "they can't do anything so I'll be a jerk just this once." I'm sure I have, and I'm sure others have whether or not they'll admit it. People 'act' different on the net. Personally, I'm more talkative in Ventrilo with friends that I've never seen in real life before than I am with friends I've known since we were knee high to a grasshopper. For others, they can be complete !@#$%^ just because they know the only thing that can happen to them is their restricted access to this site, or another site. Heck, look at WoW for example (I've nothing against this game mind you) but there is a great deal of people that play the game and just act like !@#%$ to every else, cause there is NOTHING you can do about it that'll make them regret it. Those same people, however, I bet would never even consider saying half the stuff they do to your face. I just don't think is true of everyone. I'm pretty damn blunt in real life, and I think there are consequences, because as anonymous as you want to be online, you are still creating an online reputation. In fact, I've been more upset by online drama, than I have been by offline drama in my life, for the express reason that these CANNOT know me, and I always come across better in person. It's why I hate online classes. I do much worse online, where my professors and my classmates can't "see me" than I do in person, where they can "feel" me. Furthermore I tend to believe in speaking the truth no matter how difficult it is. I do try to protect myself from potential online predators, (btdt) but at the same time, relationships are more tenuous out here where we can't see each other's eyes, faces, demeanor when we are 'talking'. The one good thing about it, is that I tend to write better than I speak. More articulately, and less breathlessly, and you don't have to put up with my irritating voice. The good thing is that people seem to get past that quickly in real life for whatever reason. I have a reputation though for saying what I think, in real life, so I've tried hard to be careful about what I think, and try to weigh things out fairly, and intelligently as I can. I still make mistakes though. But one of my biggest pet peeves are those people who look you in the eye and tell you something they think you want to hear rather than committing to a stance. It drives me nuts and I really believe it's passive aggression at its worst. So my personality has a lot to do with it. I'm sure everyone's personality is the same. If you'll lie online I know you will lie in real life. If you'll cower and hide online, I know you're cowering and hiding in real life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tyreil829 Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 powerful words there Myr well said as well! my view is that people are getting winded up about prices going up around the world i think people find forums or such a escape if you will... that might explain why people are getting a bit cranky and all..i will say it annoys me as well because of rising prices i might not be able to travel around anymore Garrus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavrosh Posted December 10, 2008 Author Share Posted December 10, 2008 Hating my real life however would make me enjoy virtual life even more... *laughs* but that is only the way I am, I do not speak for people in general. So when life outside gets hard for me I really am happy sometimes that I have a place to run to, a place where I can forget about daily lifes routines and sorrows for a bit of time until I have to be back in real life and get my duties done. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buddah Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 My god, how did this happen....a civil discussion on these forums. Thanks to all you have restored my faith in mankind. Best wishes during the holiday season, and may you find great joy and peace in the upcoming year. Buddah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezdimona Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 same to you buddah I try to maintain civility,its not always easy.For whatever reason I think I scare people, men mostly,cause they're the ones that seem to like to put it bluntly, try to pound their notions of right and wrong into my head.If I were a man,and talked openly about sex here or anywhere else and how many women I've had,most guy would be high fiving me,congratulating me, slapping me on the butt( and whats up with that anyway???) and there'd be no problem.I talk openly and suddenly I'm a nympho....because of what,a healthy appitite for sex, give me a break. I pay my own bills, run my own business(successfully) and even have a degree in business.So I'm less than equal to? I've just reverted back to old ways and now ignor the comments,the slurs and other things that happen here. Myrmaad gave me some good advise once,and like things from aeryn,I learn from those that are wiser than me,and am grateful. let the fools and sandbox boys talk,thats all it is,and words only hurt if you allow them to and I no longer give free space in my head to anus tweets! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
josh900 Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 i don't know if this has already been said but i think alot of online fights could be stopped with just an explanation and an apology.alot fights start because someone didn't understand another person.but they would stop fighting and start explaining i think that would help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezdimona Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 i don't know if this has already been said but i think alot of online fights could be stopped with just an explanation and an apology.alot fights start because someone didn't understand another person.but they would stop fighting and start explaining i think that would help.true,when I'm wrong,I'll say so,but some no matter how much you prove to them their wrong,refuse to admit that their human and prone to make mistakes.Ego's rule where common sense and civility loose outhttp://thenexusforums.com/index.php?showtopic=87256 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
josh900 Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 yeah.there will always be people that you can't reason with.because they think that they're always right.and then there are the people that enjoy making others miserable.as hard as it is.it's best just to ignore those people.which is another problem.some people don't know when it's best to not say anything.they think they have to fight back when in reality it's pointless to fight back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezdimona Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 true,thats why I walk awaynow.my peace and serenity are more important to me than they are! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XanAlderon Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 I don't think I've ever met hostilaty online. Exept once but I think that was probably a bored 9 year old... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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