Girlfriend issues?

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I would say give it some time for now. Lay low, but stay in contact with her, keep the line of communication open, but just slow everything down. The fact that she tried to get back together with you tells me that she doesn't feel the same way, she still loves you and still wants your relationship, but by saying no a second time you have really damaged her ego, so above all you need to be there for her and try to help her through that, but DON'T keep pushing (in my experience, that can only cause people to grow resentful) to get back with her, not now, she wants to say yes, but you've hurt her too much, her ego will override her feelings and say no. But don't give up, because while she can't say yes, she regrets that she can't, so in time, if you stay in her life, she will say yes.

 

Also, I agree with your sister, this guy is a rebound. I know because I've been that guy. She doesn't love him because she loves him, she loves him because he's there and willing to listen. I've seen it happen before, she just needs a shoulder to cry on and his was the closest. You need to switch roles here and become the "hunter", be there for her when their relationship goes south and show her why she loves you in the first place.

 

For now, though, just stay in her life (because you WILL grow apart if you don't and her feelings for you may fade), but don't push anything. Both of you need time and space to gain clarity. I would suggest returning to your school work, because that will help both of you later and you won't be wasting your time if things don't go as planned...

 

But who knows, you may find that while you loved her and still do now, someone may come along that shows you how much better it could be. Your first love only seems like the best until you've had better.