Okay, emotions aside, this is a problem that can be dealt with. Somewhere in your UI, you've got a setting that got messed up, or something. Mine shows my plugins in their actual load order, exactly like MO2. Now, I will admit that I've clicked around on just about everything, so I might have changed something from the default; I don't remember... The first step to try is to make sure that the Mod Index column is visible on the Plugins tab. Then, do an ascending sort by Mod Index. The order will then be the actual load order that the game's engine is going to use.