I think at this point Gloria Steinem is trying to choke herself to death. I may have to send her a note of explanation and apology after this. Neither person has to be in charge. Coming from a Homosexual male, I may not have the experience with heterosexual couples others do. But in each relationship most of my older friends have had, gay or straight, they have all been perfectly fine with both being equal, or not caring where the money comes from so long as they have it. Also, your understanding of how the Brotherhood works is kinda limited. The Citadel is a fortress, not a castle. Lyons is the highest ranking officer, not a king. And even Lyons, according to the Codex, would have to answer to the High Elder, which would presumably be a Maxon descendent. Fallout is set in a Post-Apocolyptic world, and apart from a few Raider gangs, and the local wild life, modern society is still ingrained. Even in reality, most average people would be unable to do what it takes to survive because of modern society. Kill? Could you blankly gun down another human in cold blood? Steal? Eat rotten, moldy, or stale foods? Also, take a look at the different cities in Fallout. Junktown: Mayor. Making it a form of consense that he should represent the town. The Hub: Mob Rule. Multiple trading caravans have a council to determine the fate of the city. New Reno: Mob Rule. Virtually the same as Vegas, just with no House. Megaton: Sherrif and Moriarty. They fight eachother constantly, but Moriarty keeps the Town in caps, and Simms keeps it safe. Rivet City: Council. Each of the parts of the city has a representitive: Civilian, Gaurd, Science. Science and Military have the highest ranking officer represent them, just like modern day America. The President is Commander-in-Cheif, we have a scientific board, and Congress represents the civilian sector. And, again, all built with the ingrained modern society values. Actually, the Brotherhood promotes the same as a modern military, based on merits. If you've killed two hundred Super-Mutants, and are currently a Knight, then you'd be promoted to Knight-Captain.