To paraphrase Jean-Luc Picard “When I have some advice [in matters of love], I will give it.” I have not had any first hand relationships with the fairer gender. However, I have seen many successful and unsuccessful relationships in practice. I do not know on what terms you and your beloved parted, but if you are still able to be good friends, that is something. My aunt and uncle are going through a divorce right now, and part of their reasoning for doing it now is that they wish to remain friends, and not become bitter and resentful of one another. I think that is a good idea. Perhaps this should be a time of reflection for you. Look back over 10 months, and see what it was that worked, but look also for where you may have fouled up. If it was a pleasurable time, be grateful for it, but do not dwell on it. That only makes matters worse. Remember also that the relationship and its termination were not (I am assuming) entirely your doing. Instead of sulking at the thought of “What could I have done differently”, ask yourself “What could we have done differently.” I’m sorry for your loss, and that my small knowledge in such maters is certainly of little help. But I would end with this overly used (but nonetheless appropriate) aphorism: It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.