TheCalliton Posted December 14, 2010 Author Share Posted December 14, 2010 well i just feel bad about it because they got married because of me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keanumoreira Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 well i just feel bad about it because they got married because of me Don't let that bring you down. It was their responsibility from the begining, and they should of taken more action when they still could. Maybe then, when they were ready, things wouldn't have been so hard on you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitualBlack Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 (edited) My parents divorced when I was around 4-5. It isn't nearly as bad as one would think. It is much better to see both of your parents when they are not fighting, each happy and both at their best because they are not at each others throats. It does suck a lot when it happens, I know, and I can understand how you feel. Trust me, in a few months things will work out just fine. Edited December 14, 2010 by tttttt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheCalliton Posted December 14, 2010 Author Share Posted December 14, 2010 im getting more "chore days" as my dad calls emmore like "i dont want you being 'unsocial' days" where i am actually quite social online!im starting to dislike this on a whole new level Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thefiveofhearts Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 Same thing happened to me when I was about four. I've become really apathetic about it. Sorry you have to go through it though, Calliton. Good news: I just got Dragon Age: Origins. (And I love you <3, Stay strong, Man.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkNinja13 Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 well i just feel bad about it because they got married because of me *Reaches through computer screen and smacks Calliton upside the head*Knock it off! Believe it or not, this divorce really has nothing to do with you (no divorce ever does have anything to do with the children). You are just unfortunate enough to be caught in the crossfire of this whole sordid mess. Your folks, while I know they did indeed love each other (you're here, so we have proof if you doubt the fact) have allowed themselves to grow apart - that is all. This whole "They only got married because of me" needs to end as it is as self-destructive as it is counter-productive. Is your mom going to be any less mom? No.Is your dad going to be any less dad? No. Remember this: Your parents feel differently about each other than they did when you were born, but they will never feel differently about you. I guarantee that if somebody called your birth "an accident" whichever one of them heard that said would jump up and be ready to crack somebody's skull. I'd love to be able to tell you that things will be better right away, but we know better. Few divorces ever end amicably (at almost 40, I have only see two that have). Most of them devolve into mudslinging competitions that would make career politicians pause and worry about decency, because both sides want to emotionally crush the other. All I can say is "weather the storms to come", because you are probably going to see a side to your parents you didn't know was there. You may also see a side to both of them that you had hoped would never show itself. It won't be easy, it will push you to your limit, and it will test your heart in ways that it shouldn't have to be tested; just ride it out - you have to. Because when the dust settles and the smoke clears, they are going to remember they both have you there counting on both of them for their love and guidance. Trust me here, okay? This will not last forever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheCalliton Posted December 16, 2010 Author Share Posted December 16, 2010 ninja... thats exactly what i needed to hearthank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkNinja13 Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 No problem Calliton :thumbsup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuperCollider Posted December 16, 2010 Share Posted December 16, 2010 Here's the good news; it sounds like you're old enough that it won't wreck you. My parents split when I was ten and that seems like the sweet spot for getting scrambled. (so read the following with that in mind) These things are almost always acrimonious & may drag on for awhile, but if your parents handle it well (kind of a big if, I know) they'll keep you out of that part as much as possible. As far as them getting married because of you, mine did the same & I figure anyone staying together over five years qualifies as a success, so you can take credit for that. Their relationship w/ one another really has nothing to do w/ the one they have with you, and you may have to do a little tuning out of the stuff that goes between them awhile. Megadeth and headphones may not solve anything but it's good enough because it's not your problem to solve. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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