Everything just sucks.

[Iv000]

Never think like that, it will only lead you on the wrong path.

You're not a burden, you're just thinking you are.

 

I've got similar problems.

I suck at school, my grades are bad. I'm trying to improve, but it just seems I can't. And I'm living in a country where grades are of high importance. Hell, even if I had good grades, I probably wouldn't even get a job here.

My friends (With "friends", I mean 3 people) are selfish and don't understand me. If I would tell them a secret about myself, they would hate me and they would ignore me. Because again, the people in my country are all selfish and ignorant. And they do not tolerate someone like me. If I want to live a happy (and normal) life, then I will have to move away from here.

And there is so much more I could write, but I won't bother you with details.

 

But I'm still happy. Sure, I'm depressed sometimes, but that's my fault because I think too much about the future.

I'm still young, I've barely begun to live. There is still so much more for me to learn, so much to do, I will not just give up because I have a few problems.

 

When I'm depressed I always listen to this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yna9FIlV03Y

 

It's from a video game, Kingdom Hearts . It taught me a lot of valuable things about life, friends, light and darkness. (Read the comments a bit, they're beautiful, they motivate a lot.)

I sometimes cry when I hear it. (Yeah, if I admit that to someone in my society they'd think I'm gay and emo. Because I'm male, they expect me to show almost no emotions and be the typical macho idiot. Well F.U. society, I'll be whoever I want.)

Not because I'm sad, but because I'm happy and relieved. All my troubles fade away. I know that there will always be a darkness that makes you sad, depressed or worse.

But remember, even in those dark moment, there is a light. You have to use this light. Remember that sometime in the future, you will have someone to love, you will have friends that will help you in difficult situations, you will have a bigger purpose then now.

But that won't come by itself, you have to fight for the light and fight for your future. Stay strong in moments like these and remember what you are fighting for.

 

Also, when you think that you don't have friends, you're wrong. You will always have friends, even if you never met them.

Take me as an example, I never met you and I barely know anything about you. But I still want you to be happy. We are all one in this world, and we all deserve to be happy.

 

I hope that you read this, and I hope that you cheer up. :)

 

If you want to talk, feel free to PM me (Or just post here, I'll check this topic regularly for a few days.)

I'm a good listener and I'm always glad I can help.

[AliasTheory]

I've talked to you in private enough Keanu, so I don't have to say much other than what I wrote on your profile.

 

When I feel sad, I listen to this:

 

 

It's fun to play on an instrument too.

[Korodic]

I used to feel this way. I was bullied in high school :facepalm:. I'm not fat, no glasses, no freckles, not a single thing someone could pick on me for. People are just ass holes. As for being depressed and alone I was at that point too. You know what made *me* feel better? Knowing that I was better than this. **** these people, and screw my problems. Your life is what you make of it. I ended up getting suspended twice, but I take pride in knowing I can stand up for myself, and even more, I got a hobby in computers, street hockey, and video games.

 

My whole family expects a lot out of me, and I intend to live up to it.

 

It all started the second I asked myself "What the hell am I depressed for?" Being depressed is pointless. Only leads to more self-hate. And for what? You're always going to be you. Might as well be the best you, you can be :)

[Sarissi]

Everyone gets depressed to some degree more than once in Life. The vast majority is short term and temporary. Spiritual practices helped me a lot. Listen to the Sanskrit Mantra in the link that I provide here. Om Namah Shivaya

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6iYhk4Omeg&feature=related

[Nintii]

My life is such a burden. I can't do anything right, I'm just an inconvenience to everyone, and I drove my best friend away when I shared something personal with her that I knew I shouldn't have. Nothing ever goes right for me, and the things I enjoy doing most- I can't even do those. What's the point if even pretending everything is okay when it's not? How can you smile when inside there are tempest forces clamping chain bracelets on your heart and nailing them with rivets? Everyday is the same meaningless crap. I can't take it anymore. All I do is sit alone all day by myself in the darkness, basically staring at the wall and pretending I actually have a life. I'm a prisoner in my own house because I have no means of transportation and everyone basically forgets I even exist. I regret so much in this world. I'm not happy. I'm trapped in eternal torment that never seems to end.

 

I'm sorry, I probably sound like the biggest baby in the world. I just need somewhere to vent. No one ever listens to me or cares to hear my problems, and I didn't know where else to express my feelings, so...whatever. If any bothers to care, I need someone to talk to. Please, I can't handle all of this stress anymore. It's too much. Years of hell, and I just can't live with myself anymore.

 

So sorry you feel that way ... but quite honestly that isn't true ... sometimes we project our negative feelings onto others - as if they are thinking those things - but they aren't it's all in

OUR own heads - it's all imaginary - we humans have this tendency to think we know what others are thinking, but we don't.

The way we see ourselves is exactly that, it's the way WE SEE OURSELVES, and that isn't neccessarily their way of seeing us.

Don't project your thoughts onto others and then live out your self fulfilling prophecy ... they hate me, I hate me, damnit everyone hates me and so on.

 

Because then you'll begin to ACT like they hate you and then you're opening up a whole new can of worms ...

Let's pretend for a moment that there is this guy who goes to class with me, and that one day he is in a particularly good mood ... maybe he was thinking about something he

saw or heard and this is making him smile ... and so now he comes into class and there I am, and he's smiling "at me" I think.

 

He's fairly attractive and is also intelligent and has a goal in life (the latter two being my weaknesses), so now I begin to feel "Gerry" - for want of a better name - is into me.

I tell all my friends about him and try and sit as near to him as possible and engage in small talk to find out what he likes and then begin to eat , dress, watch, do all those

things that my "dearest darling Gerry" likes.

 

I even tell my mom about him and point him out to her at the Mall ... and so one sunny day she rocks up to class and while I'm busy with the lecturer she stops Gerry and

engages him in conversation ... Gerry points a finger at me and bursts out laughing ... damn, he's so hysterical that he falls onto the ground unable to control himself.

He calls over all his friends and they all start falling over with laughter ... this is where I suddenly wish the ground opens into another dimension.

I actually know a few girls like myself in this "imaginary" story, who did the very same thing and ended up looking like total idiots.

 

Moral of the story is that you should never "imagine" you know what other people are thinking ... trouble lives down that road, and you should never trouble trouble until

trouble troubles you.

 

You seem like a fairly decent and considerate person, and NOT a "burden" or "an inconvenience" so far as I can tell, so drop that baggage it doesn't suit you.

Sorry if I sound a bit forward here.

 

Secondly, I'm going to give you one of the best pieces of advice I ever received in my life, and that is this, "NEVER EVER tell anyone your failures or mistakes EVER, they

will pass over all the good things you've ever said or done and remember that "one thing".

Keanu' we all want to connect with people and sometimes we feel that by imparting certain "secrets" or "personal things" with them that this will somehow bring about that

connection or bond with them ... It doesn't.

Sometimes, people do that when they see or feel their relationship is failing, and so they feel that by telling their drifting partner a "secret" that this persoanl revelation is

somehow going to make them feel obligated to stay "because I've just told you this secret thing" ... wrong, it only gives them huge incriminating ammunition to talk against you

once they've left.

Example: ... Damn did you know what Sheila / Bob told me just before I left them ... OMG, it's going to shock you !!!!!!!

They can even use this as the reason why they left you ... what a perfect cover to hide their possible pathetic behavior in the relationship to start with ... do you see where I'm going

with this ?

 

Now I'm not saying that this is what you did or said, but it's a good illustration of what people do and the consequences that take place after.

Some women feel that if they don't "sleep" with the guy in their lives then he'll leave them and so they do something they don't really want to in order to keep him ... I know a few

people like that as well ... they end up being scorned, used, dumped, cheap and dirty.

Some even fall pregnant hoping to keep him around, that doesn't work either.

 

If someone doesnt want to be with you, let them go ... bye bye ... if people don't like you, then adopt the attitude of, "so what" ... not everyone is always going to like us ... we have

a saying here, "build a bridge and cross it" ... move on, cos there's always people who do like you, don't get bogged down by trying to make people like you or care about those

who don't.

I'd like to say that she was in the wrong to walk away when you told her whatever you did, but some people just don't want to deal with certain things and maybe what you said

was not for her ... you cannot blame her ... just be careful next time, no seriously ... treat it as "once bitten twice shy".

 

Lastly ... I attend a lot seminars whenever I can and have been invited to attend some where the most prestigious speakers in the world have given lectures ... if I mentioned some

of their names you'd know them.

 

I recognise and understand problems for what they really are ... they are here to increase my capacity in life ... now when we go through them, they're not fun at all are they ?

But you can turn your tragedies into triumphs - this is not a cliche' - by learning something from them.

A simple example: When you had your first memorable hurt in life it was painful, but since then you've had quite a few and if you look back, then that first one is a breeze compared

to what you're going through now, right ?

Right ... you see your capacity to handle pain has grown and you've "matured".

 

That's what problems or challenges do - I prefer the word challenges - they stretch you ... they mature you.

Also, ALL challenges have a shelf life, just like a loaf of bread or pint of milk ... they won't be around forever ... case in point, that first hurt is over right ? ... of course, and so is

the second and the third etc., they're ALL OVER ... and now there's a new one but it will be over too, just hang in there.

Sure it hurts - FOR NOW - but just think of life's challenges as limited in time ... so don't go and drag it out, laugh at them.

 

What can I do while in the midst of a shelf life limited challenge (and they ALL are) ?

Talk to yourself ... that's right, tell yourself that you're going to make it ... that it's not over ... that you're here to stay ... don't exasperate the problem by dwelling on it ... move on !!!

Build your bridge, get something to look forward to ... remember that if you have no goal, then you're stuck ... the people who say they can and those who say they can't are

both right.

So choose the high road, choose victory, get a goal and break it down into bite size chunks if you have to ... also remember that staying exactly where you are might not be

going backwards but it's stagnation ... it took Thomas Edison approximately 3000 times before he got the light bulb right.

Become a plodder ... keep going forward ... keep on keeping on.

Go to the mirror and tell yourself that you're going to make it, that you're awesome, that you're a winner ... and you will become what you focus on ... and that works both ways.

 

This must be a huge post, so I'm going to end it now ... the alternative to believing in yourself is medication.

[Korodic]

^ Isn't it sad how we believe most people think of us?