Aerin Morth Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Although I've never done it, and doubt I ever will, I understand why people would do it. Cutting yourself is- like Carah said- a way of creating outside pain to deafen the inside pain. However, I don't believe cutting helps anyone. What people need it to know that they're loved, and to know that people want them around and are hurt when they cut themselves. I guess I think of cutting as a cry for help. It's easy to hide the pain inside, but when there are physical scars to show how much you hurt, then people will pay more attention to what you're feeling. I think if you cut yourself because your friends cut themselves, then that's just another way of going along with the trend, and that is entirely stupid. But if you're really, severely depressed, then I can understand why cutting yourself would be an escape from the pain. I think it's sad that so many people are close-minded about things like this. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, of course, but shouldn't you look at a subject from all angles, instead of just standing behind one opinion? If people feel the need to cut themselves, then who are we to tell them that it's 'stupid' or 'pointless'? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Necromancer G Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Like Septim741 does, if your depressed then exercise. The more you do it the sexier you become. Then you can be happy knowing that the guy over there has a gut while you have a 6 pack. Cutting is pointless in my opinion because why dont you die like a real man. On the battlefield or by commiting Seppuku (ritual suicide commited by Samurai) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Necromancer G Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Nevermind, Seppuku is just like cutting but much faster, done with a sword, and it involves your stomach instead of your arm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macmert Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Well I guess Seppuku will be more painful, since after you stab yourself in the stomach, you need to turn the sword like a screw driver and pull it aside to tear your body... I guess wrist cutting in a bath and passing out from blood loss is much easier... In fact the easiest might be taking enough sleeping pills and lie down I guess... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamerbird Posted July 24, 2008 Author Share Posted July 24, 2008 Cutting and suicide are entirly two different things. Most people who cut don't want to die, it is a way of coping with an internal pain (if you hurt more on the outside you can't feel the pain on the inside), or a person who is numb from pain; it is a way of checking if your still alive. Those who have never been there can not understand. People who drink and/or do drugs might, because all of it is a form of self medicating, a lack of coping skills, and too much trauma has affected their life. Instead of getting mad with the person suffering, they need support, and to know that they are loved. I agree with Carah here and glad she raised this point, when I did it and I am sure about this with Carah, we didn't want to die, we simply wanted an easy way to cope with pain. All I needed to know, as Carah said, was that I was cared about by people, which during this time I thought I wasn't needed by anyone and got in their way. After this my friends and family all told me they cared and I stopped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marcus Wolfe Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Cutting is something that you do to other people, not yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
worm82075 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I agree with Carah here and glad she raised this point, when I did it and I am sure about this with Carah, we didn't want to die, we simply wanted an easy way to cope with pain. All I needed to know, as Carah said, was that I was cared about by people, which during this time I thought I wasn't needed by anyone and got in their way. After this my friends and family all told me they cared and I stopped. Cutting and suicide aren't as different as you might think. Cutting is just the first stage and it will get to a point when it's not enough. You were just lucky enough to have been shown the love you needed to turn back from that path. Someone that practices such self medication in any form, be it cutting, drug abuse or alcoholism, they are on the same path and it ends in suicide. Whether it's a conscious decision to do so or just a case of over medication resulting in death. The problem for so many of these people is that they are either blind to the love that they have (which is the most common of these cases) or they are truly unloved and unwanted by the world they live in. If you think that the latter do not exist you are sadly mistaken my friend and there is really nothing you can do for them. Are you prepared to give them the love they need to wanna live? I know I'm not. So what is to be done? My opinion is that these souls should be allowed to vacate anytime that they wish. The former on the other hand can (most of them) be shown that they are loved and that life is worth living but the ones that can't deserve release from their hell on earth. If you do love someone that is on this path then do everything you can to show them that you care and that others do too. If you can get them off of that path then that is truly noble and honorable but don't give up the all the good things in your life in the process because they might just take you down with them and there is no honor in sacrificing your own happiness for someone that is beyond all hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michlo Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 I think this is a very personal matter and it is inappropriate to be talking about it on a forum with anonymous people. If you are so willing to bring up this topic here, you ought to talk to a doctor about it, someone who can give a very clear and definite answer to your opinions. I didn't read anything here except the first post, so I'm directing my answer to anyone in particular. I wholeheartedly agree. Speak to a therapist. Despite not believing in it (probably because of hearing from my Mum my whole life that she had it) I was diagnosed with clinical depression about three years ago. They believed it probably started back in '99 when I lost my Nan. Anyway, they treated me with medication and I got back to being the person I hadn't even really realized had disappeared. We are fortunate enough to live in countries which DO have support systems. Find one for yourselves, please before resorting to such destructive measures. I had a two year break from my IT career and worked as the assistant manager at a gay leather bar so nothing surprises me anymore as I've met people into all sorts of things. One friend from there does this in a sexual context and I tell him to his face that I still don't get it despite his explanations about the endorphin rush, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tyreil829 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 the lass i dated a while ago did self harm a lot her arms were covered in knife marks not a nice thing i stopped dating her soon after but it just wrong people think its a escape it just makes things worse and it builds up and up still you break i had my share of scars...fights each one made a new scar if you self harm mate your just making a bigger scar on you life Carth Onasi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
humanbean234 Posted August 13, 2008 Share Posted August 13, 2008 As one who serves in the medical field, I am both ethically and professionally opposed to any sort of self-inflicted harm.I personally find the concept of "cutting" to deliberately cause damage to one's own body, completely alien, though there are others who find my ability to place an intravenous catheter into my own arm equally alien.I guess the defining difference, for me, is the intended end result. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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