Thought I'd share...

[Korodic]

I've been depressed lately.
So here is the product of my depression:

[IndorilTheGreat]

I know where you're coming from. Over the past few months, I've been struggling with the same thing (minus the girl; still no luck in that department).

 

Life suddenly hit me like a load of bricks, and it sucked. Bad.

 

I turned to my family and friends for help, and I am doing considerably better now. Still a bit iffy, but compared to how I was just two months ago, I'm practically the most optimistic person ever.

 

Just remember that it won't last forever, even though it may feel like it. It was like I was floating in the middle of a lake, and I just didn't see the point in swimming to shore; the shore seemed just as bad as the water.

 

Remember; you have a whole network of family and friends here. Feel free to ask for help if you need. Heck, ask for help even if you don't need it. :thumbsup:

 

Good luck.

[josh900]

Been there done that. Long distance relationships can be a gigantic pain in the rear let me tell you. The distance and lack of close contact definitely takes it's toll. Relationships on their own are tough yes, but put a couple hundred, or even couple thousand miles into that mix and you've got trouble. You can't go out, you can't give the other a hug when one of you's having a bad day, (and believe you me, nothing's worse than having the person you care about the most bawling their eyes out and you not being able to do a thing to really comfort them, you can talk them through it sure but it's still a kick to the gut regardless.) Also depending on the distance get ready to change up your schedule almost completely. If she's only a few hours away them it's easier. But more than 5 and say goodbye to sleeping at a "proper time" Then of course you have job hours to throw into the mix, You get stuck working the wrong shift and you'll hardly get a chance to talk to her. Then if she's in another country there's a chance of major cultural and or belief differences that get thrown in there, some you can look past, others not so much.

 

Now not to sound like i'm saying it's dumb to even try, I know a few people that have actually managed to make a long distance thing work. I'm merely speaking from my own experiences. It's depressing, lonely, and will make you wanna tear someones throat out at times, but those moments that everything's going fine can make all it worth it.

 

If you think it can work out and you got a shot, take it. The distance thing will work itself out one way or another. And speaking from experience here again, I've had two long distance relationships. Neither ended because of the distance, Both times i though they were what i wanted in a girl, and both times i was dead wrong. One turned into a complete and utter psychopathic stalker, and the second was really just a product of her upbringing and we just didn't mesh well. Still really good friends with her though and have been for years so there's always that chance of loosing a girlfriend but gaining a best friend. It's like that with any relationship, anything and everything can cause it to come to a screeching halt.

 

So with that wall of text there i say good luck to you sir, i sincerely hope that it all works out for you in the end.

[Korodic]

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[Iv000]

:( I'm sorry you had to go single because of the distance.

 

I'm in a LDR atm, and it will still stay LDR until I finish schooling. 5k miles, it's a lot I know, but we agreed no matter how hard, no matter what we'll do this. We are both committed, very much so, and are helping each other out when problems arise and fix them. I think we're slowly finding a balance in this distance thing, most of the time it's making me happy :happy: and when I miss him, we talk it out, play games, everything. I know it will work out in the end :) we've both met at the right time in the right place, and I just know it that one day we'll be together with 0 distance between us.

 

It takes a ton of extremely hard work and self discipline and self therapy, and also normal therapy too :P but right now, it's going great.

 

Honestly I am overly emotional, and I feel things a good bit more than other people. Especially painful with empathy as it's really difficult to hear when someone has a hard time (often times empathy hurts a lot more than my own sadness), especially if you care for them. I'm not even thinking about being single and I don't think I ever will because he's my angel and I love him forever, but if that might happen because of something horrible then I would be the most broken person on this planet. He's more than just a boyfriend to me.

 

Sorry, a bit too much talk about myself.

I hope from now on you'll have the best life can offer to you, you seem like a nice guy and deserve some more happiness. I'm sorry to hear you went through a lot of pain, but you have a great mindset right now. Life is sometimes s***, but I think everything will balance itself out soon enough and you will get your reward for all that pain.

 

I know a talk can do a lot, so if you need one you can PM me. Good luck to you.

[Korodic]

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[Iv000]

lol you sound like me :P

I'm not like any of the other guys here, they all go out partying and drinking and basically are brainless about the choice of girls (like you said, a bag of lays :P ), while I prefer a quiet night home, gaming, chatting with people, internet, researching and such. They choose hot girls over intelligent/nice/honest ones, I guess it's the teenager way. They don't really want anything serious probably, they just want to 'get laid' and to show off, but I'm not like that. I want something forever, and that's something I definitely see in my boyfriend, so the LDR is easier when you know that you will spend the rest of your time together with him. The few years apart aren't much compared to what we planned out for the future. Finally being together and moving in will probably be the most satisfying and happy feeling I have ever felt in my life.

 

I know how it feels to care too much, trust me I do that all the time. My boyfriend told me he will stay awake tonight and game, and suddenly a bit later I didn't hear a word from him. That got me worried, but as always it was nothing he just fell asleep :teehee:

 

Sadly (or not) I have to agree with the get over it part. Don't tear yourself up because of it, you're a nice guy like I am and sooner or later you will find that 'one'. Trust me, 2 weeks after my broken, abusive past relationship I met my current boyfriend, right here on the nexus. I can't believe how lucky I am and our meeting felt like destiny. That special person may be just around the corner, keep your head up one day you will look back and laugh with your spouse about all the teenage things you had to go through ^^

 

I'm a hopeless romantic xD though that's a very good trait for a LDR.

[Korodic]

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[Korodic]

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[Niborino9409]

I sincerely hope you guys(and girls)will solve whatever is bothering you! :biggrin:

 

Too lazy to read everything properly, but it seems to be about Relationships.

 

Good Luck Everyone! :thumbsup:

Edited January 20, 2013 by Niborino9409