No, you're not alone; on the spear part, there's a mod that does what you want for that: http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/mods/15373/? I've been souring the nexus, and found two mods that get "close, but no cigar". Everyone who makes spears seem to insist on them either being short spears, or use two-handed meshes. Thus, your spear is reduced to a bashing stick. There's a mod that turns the 1h sword forward power attack in to a lunge: http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/mods/35929/? That helps a lot with the short spears from the Heavy Armoury mod, but those are a bit small for my taste. Spears are viable with one hand until you reach 9 feet or so.