Silent Treatment

[Deleted54170User]

I read a book recently that says that the reason my best friend acted weird when I met with the best friend I had since kindergarten, outside their new job was because they change social behavior to be best friends with their work mates. The person actually made fun of me with the new work mates after I appeared to have gotten out of ear shot. I had only turned the corner and was feeling kind of sad, when I overheard the remarks. When I confronted the old friend from grade school I was told I was imagining it.

 

The psychology books told me I wasn't. It is a natural occurrence. What my best old friend did not realize is, when it was their turn to find me, I found myself in the same situation with my new working class friends. At first it was difficult to swallow my pride and accept how they felt about my old friend, and than, I suddenly remembered how the best friend had changed so quickly into a deceiver.

 

Have you sacrificed any old friendship's because of this kind of behavior?

[Balagor]

No, never.

Books are written by humans, and humans have there opinions (like I have mine, and you have yours). When they write a book about their opinions, well yes it´s not necarssery the truth :teehee:

[grannywils]

No.

[Deleted54170User]

Oh! I forgot. It says that a good friend will smooth over the jaded edges and will still be friends when they are not at work or with work friends. They will politely ask you not to drop by at work unless it is for business reasons and ask you to not make a scene at work if they give you the businesses standard brush off routine. A friend will make both worlds work.

 

My luck then. The only friend I had from kindergarten, I thought was my best friend, was always looking for a better friend, all those years.

 

After working on the focus the information gave me I got really relaxed and relieved. A new acquaintence said, "With friends like that, who needs enemies?!"

 

And my opinion, "Intelligence is based upon the teachers logic whose mind is giving others an aptitude test." My opinion; If based on fact is held to be scientifically true. My opinion; based on hearsay is fiction, which I still may believe is true. Flying Saucers, little gray men, ghosts and goblins are real! LOL

 

Aren't they? :laugh: Just kidding. Baaaahg! :blink:

[JimboUK]

Adapting how you behave and interact with different groups of people is a social skill and a perfectly natural behaviour. I won't behave the same around work colleagues as I do out with friends, what you experienced was someone not very good with that skill.