Why's it so hard...

[Shadow of the Fallen]

... Be honest guys.. you know what the answer is... ;)

 

BTW why does this :o and this :ohmy: look the same?

[vandorssen]

I am 22 years old and proud that I have never been on a date. It demonstrates a level of self control that few adolescents can muster. I have not had any particular desire to procreate, and therefore no particular desire to engage in “meaningful relationships” with the opposing gender. If this stance seems odd to you, just remember that to me it is equally odd that others would subject themselves to the emotional rollercoaster that is dating, needlessly.

[Shadow of the Fallen]

Unexpected at best, but the reasoning is understood... After all, who wants to hang out with the kind of people that waste thier time typing up responses to people who live half way around the world and can only talk to you in the dead of night... Hmm.. Maybe thats why they havent been responding very pleasently as of late.. Oh well..

[vandorssen]

Unexpected at best, but the reasoning is understood... After all, who wants to hang out with the kind of people that waste thier time typing up responses to people who live half way around the world and can only talk to you in the dead of night... Hmm.. Maybe thats why they havent been responding very pleasently as of late.. Oh well..

For me anyways, work comes first. Then My hobbies (games, electronics, music, driving), and then everything else. The above was not meant to indicate that I am some sort of troll who spends 38 hours per day watching StarTrek and conversing with unknown someones over the ether of the internet. Rather I feel I have a healthy social life (as my work demands I do), but at this time, I simply feel no need to fraternize and fornicate with the fairer sex. Perhaps when I am more mature. ;)

[Mojlnir]

I made it to the age of 24 with only 3 "serious" relationships. The longest lasted for 9 months and all three of the girls cheated on me and then dumped me. I said to hell with women and went back to my true love...my trusty compy.

 

Well, grad school was progressing nicely and it looked like I was going to get used again when an angel saved me. She literally had to hit me with a rock (she actually gave me a rock) and kissed me. Something clicked inside, like a lock to a vault that I had fought to keep closed, and I fell head over heels in love. Not only is she stunningly beautiful, but she's a nerd too!

 

Needless to say, I am very glad that she approached me... I would never have mustered the courage to ask her out. I might have missed out on the rest of my life, which I now get to spend with a gorgeous nerd.

 

So, long story short. Wait. Highschool girls are moody, demanding, complicated and down right retarded. They'll get better, just give them time.

[Hogosha Ookami]

girls are jsut that, girls. They are different and we dont understand them. Its not hard to talk to them, you jsut have to realise there not guys and not going to react teh same. I dont find them hard to talk to, sometimes i stall b4 asking a girl out, but not for long. Jus t ahve to think about what i am going to say.

 

This form a 17 year old guy

[wesaynothin]

It's simple:

 

1. Spend time with a machine that understands you, and you understand, and hang out with people who generally agree with you (and if they don't they're to far away to hurt you), or

 

2. Try to figure out girls. Which in my past expierience (small, I admit), seems to be

 

Girl:"Are we friends?"

 

Me:"Uhh, yeah. Why?"

 

Girl:"How dare you!"

 

Girl:*slap*

 

Me:"What was that for!?!"

 

Girl:*stomps off mad*

 

I think I'll go for number one, where my poor cheek is safe.

[dunmer_jediknight]

I am 33 years old and I have been on over 300 dates ( not an exageration) my sucess is that I don't play the games that everyone out there plays. Of cource that is also why I may also stay single ;) . and to Vandorssen I have to say that dateing is a part of life and does not have to lead to sex (I only have had 97 partners,and I used safe sex EVERY time) some of my bestfriends have been my ex-girlfriends and one of my closest friends I meet throu a dateing survice and we never have done anything more then be friends. Yes you will be burned by those who can't stay faithful and you will be hurt by those who don't return your fealings but IT IS WORTH IT!!! I have lived a very full life and I will continue to live a full life. Yes at this time I am not looking to find a woman to be with but if offered I won't say no. And I don't mean just for sex. But the strongest reason I can give to be with someone is that as a species we are a social animal and we feel more whole when we are with someone special ( and to have a content woman in my arms makes me feel more like a man then anything life can offer)

[Shadow of the Fallen]

Other then myself, and I belive that everybody fears what they do not understand.. and guys don't understand women.. Other then myself, who actually said that they scare the piss out of us?

[Dark0ne]

I've just recently split up with my girlfriend of 10 months. It was hard, very hard, but I never look back on what has happened and think "Wish I'd never started it in the first place". We're good friends now, just not THAT good.

 

Relationships are a part of human nature, love is a part of human nature. Just make sure you're getting into a relationship for the right reasons (namely not just sex). But also remember, a girlfriend without a physical side (not necessarily sex) is simply a good friend, who's a girl. Make sure you diferrentiate between the two.

 

As for confronting girls, especially in the teens, make sure the girl you're confronting is mature enough to not go bragging and/or gossiping with all her lady friends about you. I, personally, can't stand that - its also a bummer if she turns you down cause half the world and their dog know about it.

 

Be yourself, and don't jump in head long, get to know them, but make sure you know what YOU want before you begin, and make sure she knows in due time.

 

So ends Dark0ne's love lesson.