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[SilverDNA]

Don't know whether to start panicking or just roll with the punches and get on with it lol. :( :blush:

 

By the way does anyone know the name of the new game about the man and young girl trying to stay alive in an apocalyptic situation?

 

I can't for the life of me remember what its called

Naomis it is only important if they fall that you are there if they need your support or advice they will seek it out boys need to gather their own experiences.

The boys need to experience this all on their own and make up there own mind this way the learn to be independent and not tugging on mothers skirt all to often ... this way you have less to worry and more time for things that you like .. for instant that game you metioned.

And No, Naoims. You can't force them to eat up their Instant experience soup by force.. this will only result in rebellion. If they come to you and ask you something simply be their mom. If they fall pick them up and put them back in the nest for a while. If the have learned to fly alone you did an outstanding job. Please keep calm, don't panic and wear a towel. ( i hope you don't wear a towel only .. then I would have reason to panic)

Remeber old Shakespear ... A Midsummer-Night's Dream, Act III. Scene II.

"That every man should take his own,

In your waking shall be shown:

Jack shall have Jill;

Nought shall go ill;

The man shall have his mare again,

And all shall be well."

[Ithildin]

 

 

 

 

My 15 year old son is taking his GCSE's and I think I'm more worried than he is.

 

He keeps telling me to chill, as he knows what he needs to achieve to get into 6th form and, horror of horrors, we also discussed University and career options :ohdear:

 

When did he get so grown up :confused:

 

I had my first serious talk with my half brother a week ago. We didn't get to talk often because he was busy with his family and work and stuff like that (he's 36).

 

So basically we talked about everything that brothers would talk about, sexuality, society, politics, school, college, career etc.

 

He was surprised that I already chose a college to go to and my career path and that I'm so serious about relationships, all that with my 17 years :P I grew up because I was horribly worried and anxious about not heaving a good future, so I decided to step things up a bit. Maybe your son had a similar experience, but then again not everybody is as paranoid as I am :biggrin:

 

 

He still hasn't settled on a career choice, he is still looking at his options. He just realises that he needs to achieve certain grades to go to 6th form and then he needs to decide what he's going to do with regard to A'Levels. These will lead him into his chosen career and then depending upon those grades, get him into a good university of his choice. (Altho I would prefer him to stay near home so I can keep an eye on him lol.)

 

the air for him must be thin, with you around ... for men growing up it is important to get indipendant as well as selfconfidence ... best to be around but only offer advice if he asks for it .... oh and one more thing naomis..

 

 

So you're saying when the time comes, I need to let him spread his wings and just watch and be there if he needs me?

 

The very thought of him and his brother leaving home fills me with panic. Silly I know, but for boys the dangers are so great, sometimes I think greater than for girls. Girls wont hesitate to ask for help and will usually have pretty good judgement when it comes to others. Boys can be easily led and get into all kinds of scrapes.

 

Oh heck, I've got a lot to learn haven't I :(

 

 

I feel the same way about my sons leaving. Sheer panic. *hugs*

[M48A5]

:mellow:

[SilverDNA]

 

 

 

 

 

My 15 year old son is taking his GCSE's and I think I'm more worried than he is.

 

He keeps telling me to chill, as he knows what he needs to achieve to get into 6th form and, horror of horrors, we also discussed University and career options :ohdear:

 

When did he get so grown up :confused:

 

I had my first serious talk with my half brother a week ago. We didn't get to talk often because he was busy with his family and work and stuff like that (he's 36).

 

So basically we talked about everything that brothers would talk about, sexuality, society, politics, school, college, career etc.

 

He was surprised that I already chose a college to go to and my career path and that I'm so serious about relationships, all that with my 17 years :P I grew up because I was horribly worried and anxious about not heaving a good future, so I decided to step things up a bit. Maybe your son had a similar experience, but then again not everybody is as paranoid as I am :biggrin:

 

 

He still hasn't settled on a career choice, he is still looking at his options. He just realises that he needs to achieve certain grades to go to 6th form and then he needs to decide what he's going to do with regard to A'Levels. These will lead him into his chosen career and then depending upon those grades, get him into a good university of his choice. (Altho I would prefer him to stay near home so I can keep an eye on him lol.)

 

the air for him must be thin, with you around ... for men growing up it is important to get indipendant as well as selfconfidence ... best to be around but only offer advice if he asks for it .... oh and one more thing naomis..

 

 

So you're saying when the time comes, I need to let him spread his wings and just watch and be there if he needs me?

 

The very thought of him and his brother leaving home fills me with panic. Silly I know, but for boys the dangers are so great, sometimes I think greater than for girls. Girls wont hesitate to ask for help and will usually have pretty good judgement when it comes to others. Boys can be easily led and get into all kinds of scrapes.

 

Oh heck, I've got a lot to learn haven't I :(

 

 

I feel the same way about my sons leaving. Sheer panic. *hugs*

 

It is quite simple. You can offer help "no" is "no" and yes means: "yes, but don't take over my life"

It seams to me that you have fear to let them go.

Don't worry. Have instead confidence in your motherly skills.

I think you two are great mothers.

[billyro]

:cool:

 

EDIT: Looking through the Skyrim forum again...

 

Donkeys. Donkeys everywhere.

Edited June 12, 2013 by billyro

[Ithildin]

 

 

 

 

 

 

My 15 year old son is taking his GCSE's and I think I'm more worried than he is.

 

He keeps telling me to chill, as he knows what he needs to achieve to get into 6th form and, horror of horrors, we also discussed University and career options :ohdear:

 

When did he get so grown up :confused:

 

I had my first serious talk with my half brother a week ago. We didn't get to talk often because he was busy with his family and work and stuff like that (he's 36).

 

So basically we talked about everything that brothers would talk about, sexuality, society, politics, school, college, career etc.

 

He was surprised that I already chose a college to go to and my career path and that I'm so serious about relationships, all that with my 17 years :P I grew up because I was horribly worried and anxious about not heaving a good future, so I decided to step things up a bit. Maybe your son had a similar experience, but then again not everybody is as paranoid as I am :biggrin:

 

 

He still hasn't settled on a career choice, he is still looking at his options. He just realises that he needs to achieve certain grades to go to 6th form and then he needs to decide what he's going to do with regard to A'Levels. These will lead him into his chosen career and then depending upon those grades, get him into a good university of his choice. (Altho I would prefer him to stay near home so I can keep an eye on him lol.)

 

the air for him must be thin, with you around ... for men growing up it is important to get indipendant as well as selfconfidence ... best to be around but only offer advice if he asks for it .... oh and one more thing naomis..

 

 

So you're saying when the time comes, I need to let him spread his wings and just watch and be there if he needs me?

 

The very thought of him and his brother leaving home fills me with panic. Silly I know, but for boys the dangers are so great, sometimes I think greater than for girls. Girls wont hesitate to ask for help and will usually have pretty good judgement when it comes to others. Boys can be easily led and get into all kinds of scrapes.

 

Oh heck, I've got a lot to learn haven't I :(

 

 

I feel the same way about my sons leaving. Sheer panic. *hugs*

 

It is quite simple. You can offer help "no" is "no" and yes means: "yes, but don't take over my life"

It seams to me that you have fear to let them go.

Don't worry. Have instead confidence in your motherly skills.

I think you two are great mothers.

 

 

Thank you, hon - that means a lot to me. :wub:

[M48A5]

:mellow:

[naomis8329]

Me too. I guess what worries me most is that old saying

 

"A son's a son till he takes a wife...

A daughter's a daughter for all of her life."

 

I'm very close with my older girls. Its taken a long time and a great deal of work. We've had our ups and downs and or fall outs and laughs. They've fallen and I've picked them up and glued them back together, hugged and kissed things better and then sent them back out into the world.

 

My youngest daughter is learning to spread her wings, testing the water and learning the boundaries of her new-found freedom. She's level headed and not at all flighty. She doesn't drink or smoke and hasn't any overwhelming interest in all things male. She's loving college, has lots of girl and boy friends in her life who love her to pieces, so I watch and listen. Help when asked. Encourage when needed.

 

My boys I adore. They both tried to kill me (I had per-eclampsia with both of them so having them was an experience and a half) they're also my little miracles both as they spent the first year of their lives in and out of hospital as they were premature and had a number of health problems until they were 12 months and then it all changed.

 

They are both very intelligent and shine. They both have no fear of life and they both have had very similar experiences and ended up in hospital :D. I'm fiercely protective because of all this and more.

 

I'll have to relinquish my hold and am piece by piece, little by little. But its hard as a mother and a care giver.

[SilverDNA]

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*warm huggles* Ithildin :smile:

Edit : *warm huggles* Naomis :smile:

Edited June 12, 2013 by SilverDNA

[M48A5]

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