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[Iv000]

Cuddles are good, good is pleasant, pleasant leads to smiles, smiles lead to happiness, happiness leads to feelings of joy and the cycle is repeated.

 

@ lv000, you'd be surprised how many "men" do not like cuddles and resort to Ironman's tactics, when, in actual fact there is more to a cuddle than to sex. Whilst I don't disagree that sex is enjoyable, it only lasts for so long, a cuddle can last a lifetime.

 

:biggrin:

Yeah I know that well enough already :P

Besides, sex means absolutely nothing to me unless there's an emotional bond.

 

Sex is nice and all but for me it's just foreplay to the actual more important thing, cuddles. Which makes you feel safe (or gives you a purpose to make someone else safe, depending on the type of person), relaxes you, calms you down and makes two people bond closer.

 

It's not like back then when our only purpose was to survive and to increase the population. Sex is designed to feel good so we increase the number of people on this planet, but we've come far far far much further than that. So right now in today's world, sex is just a more intense and active form of cuddling and after you're done you cuddle even more.

 

So technically, sex is also just cuddling. Which concludes that there is no sex, only different forms of cuddles. :biggrin:

 

 

you'd be surprised how many "men" do not like cuddles and resort to Ironman's tactics, when, in actual fact there is more to a cuddle than to sex. Whilst I don't disagree that sex is enjoyable, it only lasts for so long, a cuddle can last a lifetime.

I agree, but you have to take something into consideration - men prefer action over passive behavior, it's how evolution made us.

 

We are designed for action, we're hunters. Large, powerful muscles, brain designed for fast reactions, easiest thing to learn is fighting, easier to see moving objects over static, will disregard passive actions in order to focus on a specific task (observing the environment for predators, protecting the group, etc.), will hear low-frequency tones easier than high-frequency ones (breathing, sneaking, background noises), and so on.

 

Women are designed for nurturing though, the opposite of males. Smaller, less powerful muscles to appear inferior, motherly instincts for taking care of children, less aggressive behavior resulted by the need to raise children without killing them, will hear high-frequency tones easier than low-frequency ones (to hear a crying baby easier), etc.

 

Our brains are made for two different things, female brains are designed to raise children and make sure a male is there to protect them, while males are there for protection of their women/children, hunting for food and anything else that requires strength and fighting. Therefore, the differences in our approach to some things, like cuddling, is understandable and normal.

 

And this made me think of myself again.

 

I'm mostly on the male side of what you described (In addition, the fact that we hear low-frequency noises easier may describe my love for bass-y music :P ), but since I'm gay I also feel the need to be protected by a male. While my boyfriend is also mostly on the male side (a bit more than me even, since he's a bit less sensitive and less emotional than I am) he on the other hand requires to make someone else feel safe.

 

While that has nothing to do with the facts about cuddling, it makes me think about what makes me long for safeness and him for making others feel safe.

 

It's either the way we're raised and grew up, the way hormones influenced on us while still being a fetus, genetical influences of some kind which were already set (or changed by something from the outsides, as some theories suggest), something more complicated than all of that, or all those things combined.

 

Is it just evolution maybe? Since reproducing is no longer needed that much, maybe homosexuality evolved just to make each-other feel safe and in addition since there's more sensitive and "motherly" gay guys like me, we can also raise kids without making them ourselves biologically.

 

Just random thoughts about why I exist, quite interesting in my opinion :P

[SilverDNA]

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[Werne]

Werne I think your physiological profiling is correct but your psychological profile is a bit *ahem* outdated ( i tried to be gentle here)

Human race has advanced when it comes to technology but we are still the same as 200 000 years ago when it comes to instincts. Also, I never said a woman can't fight, it's just that an average female is no match for an average male when it comes to pure physical strength (except that one girl in my squad, she's like the damn Hulk, ripping out truck engines and stuff).

 

Oh and one thing you should already know in terms you might find more familiar:

You can't after upgrading your relationship from operating system "Girlfriend V1.0" to "Wife V2.0" and later to Mother V3.0 downgrade on the same level to "Girlfriend 1.0" The loss in system compatibility is around mostly around 60% of your income in most western countries. It is strongly advised not after upgrading to Wife V2.0 or higher developed program Mother V3.0 to install the addons like "Cheat" (any version) or "Affair" (any version) into those running systems. It will when detected by the operating program ultimately lead to 25% or even more of system incompatibility. The loss of structural integrity might be later lead to the above mentioned loss of income and replacement of "Mother V3.0" and a new and fresh installation of the operating system "Alone beta 0.5" and maybe much more later a fresh and complete upgrade to operating system "Girlfriend 1.0"

If you didn't witness such things already in your vicinity you shoudl now have the idear why it is a bad idea to try a downgrade a perfectly running system or install some incompatible addons. :pinch:

You are confused, let me help you:

 

While I did upgrade the Girlfriend 1.9 module to Wife 2.0, Mother 3.0 is still in beta so I still didn't add the repositories in order to make an upgrade. Wife 2.0.1 is great but it needs some upgrades, I believe by the time Wife 2.0.3 comes out, Mother 3.0 would be developed enough for an upgrade. Husband-2.0.3 is a mess, or so I hear, needs a lot of stability upgrades before upgrading to Father 3.0. :pinch:

 

Also, I support open-source software and like when my system is stable, Cheat-1.0.0.deb and Affair-1.0.0.deb packages are inside the non-free experimental repository so I will not get them, not even if I need additional firmware. Not to mention that those packages could destabilize Marriage 2.0.3 OS, it would result in a kernel panic and a non-bootable system which would need a lot of maintenance in order to be stable again. Adding non-free modules is not advised or supported by RelationshipOS development team. :armscrossed:

 

Downgrading is not an option either, unless Wife 2.0.1 and Husband 2.0.4 modules start to conflict, that would require downgrading Marriage OS down to Friends 0.9.6 or even worse, Acquaintances 0.3.7, which is a huge setback. But judging by current progress, there will be no downgrades. :happy:

 

Our status is progressing as planned by the development team, we create a new version, we test the packages and once we agree the end product is finalized, we change it's status from Testing to Stable, roll it out, make an upgrade and plan a new release in the same way.

 

Parents 3.0 is still in Testing, we added some packages from Testing into Stable using backports but we both agree the new release is not yet ready to be rolled out to the public. Development on the new system is progressing quite fast though and we believe it will be released next year. Pregnancy 1.0 embedded kernel module for Mother 3.0 is in development, should be released in backports in the next 3 months. :biggrin:

 

We already removed the Contraception meta-package containing Condom 2.0.7 and Diaphragm 2.0.3 security software packages from Marriage 2.0.3 in preparation for a new release, once Child 1.0 sub-module is created and released, we can roll out Parents 3.0. :thumbsup:

 

I'm looking forward to the upgrade, I know Marriage 2.0.3 is rather fresh, but the new upgrade will also cause the project shift from RelationshipOS to FamilyOS, a more complex but powerful operating system. While I'm afraid of possible problems due to a drastic shift like that, I do look forward to it. :yes:

 

And this made me think of myself again.

I'm mostly on the male side of what you described (In addition, the fact that we hear low-frequency noises easier may describe my love for bass-y music :P ), but since I'm gay I also feel the need to be protected by a male. While my boyfriend is also mostly on the male side (a bit more than me even, since he's a bit less sensitive and less emotional than I am) he on the other hand requires to make someone else feel safe.

 

While that has nothing to do with the facts about cuddling, it makes me think about what makes me long for safeness and him for making others feel safe.

 

It's either the way we're raised and grew up, the way hormones influenced on us while still being a fetus, genetical influences of some kind which were already set (or changed by something from the outsides, as some theories suggest), something more complicated than all of that, or all those things combined.

 

Is it just evolution maybe? Since reproducing is no longer needed that much, maybe homosexuality evolved just to make each-other feel safe and in addition since there's more sensitive and "motherly" gay guys like me, we can also raise kids without making them ourselves biologically.

 

Just random thoughts about why I exist, quite interesting in my opinion :P

I don't know, I find homosexuality normal for both animals and humans, I don't believe it's a hormone change or something like that, maybe genetics or mutations but I'm unsure. Lack of reproduction need may have an influence in that, the psychological factor is important in the matter, but I honestly don't know what factor, or combination of multiple factors, causes it. :confused:

 

Doesn't matter anyway, every human is what he is, doesn't matter why. :thumbsup:

[M48A5]

:blink:

[Thor.]

I was locked out of the house for hours trying to find where did i put that key i hid from myself???? :blink:

[SilverDNA]

 

Werne I think your physiological profiling is correct but your psychological profile is a bit *ahem* outdated ( i tried to be gentle here)

Human race has advanced when it comes to technology but we are still the same as 200 000 years ago when it comes to instincts. Also, I never said a woman can't fight, it's just that an average female is no match for an average male when it comes to pure physical strength (except that one girl in my squad, she's like the damn Hulk, ripping out truck engines and stuff).

 

Oh and one thing you should already know in terms you might find more familiar:

You can't after upgrading your relationship from operating system "Girlfriend V1.0" to "Wife V2.0" and later to Mother V3.0 downgrade on the same level to "Girlfriend 1.0" The loss in system compatibility is around mostly around 60% of your income in most western countries. It is strongly advised not after upgrading to Wife V2.0 or higher developed program Mother V3.0 to install the addons like "Cheat" (any version) or "Affair" (any version) into those running systems. It will when detected by the operating program ultimately lead to 25% or even more of system incompatibility. The loss of structural integrity might be later lead to the above mentioned loss of income and replacement of "Mother V3.0" and a new and fresh installation of the operating system "Alone beta 0.5" and maybe much more later a fresh and complete upgrade to operating system "Girlfriend 1.0"

If you didn't witness such things already in your vicinity you shoudl now have the idear why it is a bad idea to try a downgrade a perfectly running system or install some incompatible addons. :pinch:

You are confused, let me help you:

 

While I did upgrade the Girlfriend 1.9 module to Wife 2.0, Mother 3.0 is still in beta so I still didn't add the repositories in order to make an upgrade. Wife 2.0.1 is great but it needs some upgrades, I believe by the time Wife 2.0.3 comes out, Mother 3.0 would be developed enough for an upgrade. Husband-2.0.3 is a mess, or so I hear, needs a lot of stability upgrades before upgrading to Father 3.0. :pinch: * Refer to section A1

 

Also, I support open-source software and like when my system is stable, Cheat-1.0.0.deb and Affair-1.0.0.deb packages are inside the non-free experimental repository so I will not get them, not even if I need additional firmware. Not to mention that those packages could destabilize Marriage 2.0.3 OS, it would result in a kernel panic and a non-bootable system which would need a lot of maintenance in order to be stable again. Adding non-free modules is not advised or supported by RelationshipOS development team. :armscrossed:

 

Downgrading is not an option either, unless Wife 2.0.1 and Husband 2.0.4 modules start to conflict, that would require downgrading Marriage OS down to Friends 0.9.6 or even worse, Acquaintances 0.3.7, which is a huge setback. But judging by current progress, there will be no downgrades. :happy:

 

Our status is progressing as planned by the development team, we create a new version, we test the packages and once we agree the end product is finalized, we change it's status from Testing to Stable, roll it out, make an upgrade and plan a new release in the same way.

 

Parents 3.0 is still in Testing, we added some packages from Testing into Stable using backports but we both agree the new release is not yet ready to be rolled out to the public. Development on the new system is progressing quite fast though and we believe it will be released next year. Pregnancy 1.0 embedded kernel module for Mother 3.0 is in development, should be released in backports in the next 3 months. :biggrin:

 

We already removed the Contraception meta-package containing Condom 2.0.7 and Diaphragm 2.0.3 security software packages from Marriage 2.0.3 in preparation for a new release, once Child 1.0 sub-module is created and released, we can roll out Parents 3.0. :thumbsup:

Section A1: Have you checked the ini file of Mother 3.0 ? under the entry Children ="X" is the number of how many different versions of the program Child are supported till the OS of Mother 3.0 crashes to black screen and needs support from a specialist th programs Psychotherapy 7.6 and Sedation 4.6 might get that fixed. Additional versions of the program Child need to be supported by your Internet account and kill a loot of speed. Father 3.0 should upgraded with NERV 3.0 , additional an fresh restored back-up of the data of the old dos file ASIWASACHILD.COM for reference might helpful with supplementary programs of Patience 1.8, Coolness V8.1 and EXpecttheunexpected.bat to patch Father 3.0 to Father 3.2 or even if you are an expert with these programs to Good_Father 2.4.

Good addons for the child program that could be early installed, if it reaches stage 01 or stage 02, is Curiosity 1.0 in combination with Playfully 2.1a and Interesting_TUT V4.01. Those are very good development programs that make the child program more adaptable for further stages in development.

 

I'm looking forward to the upgrade, I know Marriage 2.0.3 is rather fresh, but the new upgrade will also cause the project shift from RelationshipOS to FamilyOS, a more complex but powerful operating system. While I'm afraid of possible problems due to a drastic shift like that, I do look forward to it. :yes:

As you may know too with the Girlfriend 1.9 OS additional programs are installed as beta version ( Mother 1.5 beta and Father 1.8 beta). theses are later upgraded with the implementation of the OS Wife 2.0.3 to Mother- in-law 2.22 and Father-in law 2.7.2. . Normally Father-in law 2.7.2. can be with a view tweaks upgrated to Father-in law 2.8.2. without any loss of performance but Mother- in-law 2.22 is in 80% of cases a buged program. trying to get rid of the program via crude deletion programs as Rifle.1.23 or Knife 6.66 beta and Accident 0.5 beta aren't recommended and result always in a total system failure. The most elegant and effective way to get rid of a buged Mother- in-law 2.22 is the use of Psychotherapy 7.6 and Sedimentation 4.6. However those programs need an expert to be installed correctly other wise the bugs return to make complications with the installed OS.

 

Other problems i don't see for now . i hope this was to a degree helpful

[Ithildin]

:D

[M48A5]

:mellow:

[naomis8329]

The above was totally enjoyable. Looking to see how Werne's upgrades work out over the coming months. As he can see there is a great deal of advice to enable him to cope with any CTDs that may come along.

 

Hopefully with more practice it will not be long before the desired results are fed back to his adoring fan base.

 

Will be watching with interest to see how this develops. I am tracking this now ...

[M48A5]

:mellow: