kvnchrist Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I just posted a thread on CP and I was wondering If any of you guys think it is strange that some people are attracted to younger and older age groups. I don't in any way mean underage. I mean those of age that look for a significant other, who is far older or younger than they are. To me this is a sign of something beyond the need of a loving relationship. I can see 2 to 3 years difference, maybe even 5 years but there are some out there that are married to people 20 - 30 years differently. I me this shows a need that is unhealthy at the very least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marharth Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Don't really have much of a opinion on this, but I am going to guess this topic won't turn out to well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeyYou Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I think age gap should be more along the lines of a 'proportional' thing. If an 18 year old girl was to marry say, a 50 year old man.... yeah, I can see some problems with that. (not to mention, question both of their sanity.....) But, a 50 year old woman, and a 70 year old man? Lot less of an issue with that. (or genders reversed for that matter.) I think some of those that are marrying significantly out of their age group, are looking for a "trophy wife", or 'sugar daddy', as the case may be..... either that, or they are trying to recapture their 'lost youth', or some such nonsense. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurielius Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 How small minded of the lot of you, why is it anyone's business who hooks up with who at what age differential? It seems perfectly socially acceptable for older men to have far younger 'trophy' wives so whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.Go cougars... :whistling: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kvnchrist Posted August 10, 2011 Author Share Posted August 10, 2011 There are those people who just can't get along with people their own age and look for younger people so they can dominate them or be as irresponsible and still have companionship. There is also those that are incredibly needy and attach themselves onto people much older than they, as a parent figure, instead of a husband or wife. Is this fair to either one of them, when marriage should be a equal partnership. Are these people just running from their problems. If so, won't they just slow down the inevitable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grannywils Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 Kvnchrist: There are also those people who can get along with people of all ages, and prefer to choose partners based on the person within, rather than on mathematics. What gives you or anyone else the right to determine the reasoning behind anyone else's choice in a partner? And why are you interested? It disheartens me to see yet another thread that seems dedicated to or at least leading towards making judgements about the behaviour of others. Personally, I have a life to live, and a really shaky world in which to live it at this moment. There just seems to be so much more to do than to worry about individuals' choices in partners; marital, sexual or otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kvnchrist Posted August 10, 2011 Author Share Posted August 10, 2011 I have my reasons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisnpuppy Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 I think that life experience is more a factor in compatability than age itself. At age 20...I would have been so far away from say...a 35 year old as I would have not had the same life experience (in general) as that person. At 40 to a 55 year old...there may not be near as much (and from my personal experience there isn't) difference. At the same time...I will be 40 soon and I have a very close friend who is 25. I laugh and joke that I am his second mom as in theory this could be so. Usually I would not have such a close BFF relationship with a 25 year old...but he is exceptionally mature and is able to relate in a way the belies his age. So you really can not just look at a couple and judge just by their ages. However if my young daughter was approached for a relationship with (she is 13 now) a 17 year old...I would 1) not let her near him 2) wonder what the heck was up that he wanted to be with a 13 year old. Its all perspective. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grannywils Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 In response to LisnPuppy's post above. I must admit, I was thinking in terms of adult relationships primarily. I too believe that when you are under 21 (or make that 25) you are not yet quite capable of being sure of the "person within" when making choices with respect to relationships. Friendships may be another story, however. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balagor Posted August 11, 2011 Share Posted August 11, 2011 Strange question. Never the less I have friends ranging from 24 to 72. I am 55 my self. I am merried to a woman of the same age. Was I to remarry (God forbid it) I see no problems with the age. I look entirely at the persons attitude, and would it be a woman at 30 or 65 that cougth her eyes on me, it wouldn´t matter, as long as the chemestry is ok. Chemestry is all that counts. Age is only a number from your security card. :biggrin: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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