Chesto Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 ein...you haven't been around for a while. Hope everything is alright, mate. Thinking of you, and hope that things are sorting out. C. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tugboat Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Well, you have grown up, so there's no necessary lecture for your obvious rush into the relationship at 19, but you should still consider that you have a life with other people now. I believe everyone has soul mates, and to your new lovers, you might be theirs. Leaving them for each other might make you oh so happy, but you've promised your love to other people - would you just take that away? Talk to both of your new significant others honestly and openly, and if they can't trust you for asking honest advice about what happened at 19, then take the chance with each other. Otherwise, you're stuck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MalachiDelacot Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Ein...wish I could give you advice, but about all I can say is no matter what you decide, it'll effect you for the rest of your life. Wish you luck on this.I got my luck...finally found my soulmate....just ask her, and she'll tell you.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chesto Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Well, you have grown up, so there's no necessary lecture for your obvious rush into the relationship at 19, but you should still consider that you have a life with other people now. I believe everyone has soul mates, and to your new lovers, you might be theirs. Leaving them for each other might make you oh so happy, but you've promised your love to other people - would you just take that away? Talk to both of your new significant others honestly and openly, and if they can't trust you for asking honest advice about what happened at 19, then take the chance with each other. Otherwise, you're stuck. Tugboat, if Im reading you right, im getting the idea that you think that people stop making erroneous emotional judgements once they are out of their teens. I know that that is not the case. And as has already been mentioned in this thread, someone is going to get hurt, no matter what decision is made finally. Ideally a decision will be made in such a way that causes the least heartache, but there will still be some pain for somebody. Probably everybody, when it comes to breaking up a marriage.If ive read you wrong, tugboat, sorry...very early here...probably not quite awake yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezdimona Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 We all seek companionship. It's a basic need of our species to want someone to share our life with and to be a psrt of us. Too many people rush headlong into relationships only to find later on that they've made bad decisions. I'm 24 and have no intention of settleing down at this time. I date and have people who are very close to me and with whom I share all my inner most thoughts,but I want a lifetime of one person,for me its not an option but a commitment of all that I am. Aceeptance is the key, and theres no such thing as an equal partnership,its always a matter of giving and receiving,being right,and admitting when your wrong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrmaad Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 We all seek companionship. It's a basic need of our species to want someone to share our life with and to be a psrt of us. Too many people rush headlong into relationships only to find later on that they've made bad decisions. I'm 24 and have no intention of settleing down at this time. I date and have people who are very close to me and with whom I share all my inner most thoughts,but I want a lifetime of one person,for me its not an option but a commitment of all that I am. Aceeptance is the key, and theres no such thing as an equal partnership,its always a matter of giving and receiving,being right,and admitting when your wrong! I fell in love at 19 and and at 45 still going strong with my husband. There have been rocky times but I guess I was smart enough to realize that I choose my reality and instead of making do, I've made it my priority to work on having a strong healthy marriage that makes us both feel happy and content. I think most people don't understand how relationships work, maybe through no fought of their own, but the bottom line is you can choose to be happy or unhappy, but choosing to be happy requires honesty, communication and commitment to finding solutions when life throws you curve balls. I do believe in soul mates, except I think there are many potential soul mates to choose from, and once you make the choice to be married, you should take responsibility for that choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dezdimona Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 We all seek companionship. It's a basic need of our species to want someone to share our life with and to be a psrt of us. Too many people rush headlong into relationships only to find later on that they've made bad decisions. I'm 24 and have no intention of settleing down at this time. I date and have people who are very close to me and with whom I share all my inner most thoughts,but I want a lifetime of one person,for me its not an option but a commitment of all that I am. Aceeptance is the key, and theres no such thing as an equal partnership,its always a matter of giving and receiving,being right,and admitting when your wrong! I fell in love at 19 and and at 45 still going strong with my husband. There have been rocky times but I guess I was smart enough to realize that I choose my reality and instead of making do, I've made it my priority to work on having a strong healthy marriage that makes us both feel happy and content. I think most people don't understand how relationships work, maybe through no fought of their own, but the bottom line is you can choose to be happy or unhappy, but choosing to be happy requires honesty, communication and commitment to finding solutions when life throws you curve balls. I do believe in soul mates, except I think there are many potential soul mates to choose from, and once you make the choice to be married, you should take responsibility for that choice.Very happy I am for you. Anything worth having is worth working on to keep. I wish you many more years of marital bliss! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tamujiin Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 Dont worry folks, i didnt doink her screw her or even let her give me the old BJ.....even though she wanted too. I love my wife, not my ex wife and am totally happy with everything in my life today. I asked the question because she asked me. And persay i dropped it here to forget about it. i came back a month later. To tell you this one thing..............Dont ever get married until you know what YOU want to do. Plus my exwife is a flippin Nutty crazyhorse i wouldn't even wish on george bush.......and if any of you know how i feel about ol lil bush...................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chesto Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 Well, einhander888. So, this has just been a bit of a laugh for you, then. Just a bit more of your party, party, party lifestyle for us to share, and take delight in. Guess what , mate? Some of us took time out from our own, rather more pressing concerns, to try to alleviate yours. Some of us were a little concerned that, soon after you posted to this thread of yours, last, you just disappeared. And that , considering the premise of this thread, and how important it seemed to be to you to get some honest answers, your disappearing like that might just suggest that you were having difficulty. And that you might appreciate some support. But you didnt, did you party boy? So... the rest of us were just mugs to fall for this , really, werent we? No. Actually, no. We were guilty , only, of being people who have some sensitivity to the plight of another. You are the mug. You are the mug with his head so far us his arse that he cant see that if one posts something like this , and in the way that you did, with seeming sincerity, that you had better be just that sincere. So...party on dude. But you had better not plan on catching fire real soon. Because I , for one, would not piss on you to put out the flames. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Necromancer G Posted August 10, 2008 Share Posted August 10, 2008 Its a funny thing when your in the army. People get married young because they fear that they will die alone on the battlefield. I cant say anything here because I am still searching for my one and only. Its actually kinda depressing seeing everyone getting married around you and wondering when will I find true happiness? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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