Does one have to respect social hierarchy & the social ladder when making friends?

[pricelessppp]

Not sure if this goes hear but I thought I'd would because its sorta a debate. Any whom when making friends out in public. Does one have to respect the leagues like that tiresome alpha/beta male talk that's just their to insult & make people feel bad. And make friends based off of what leauge he/she's apart of? Also hypothetically when a friend you made for a while gets a serious boyfriend/girlfriend does one have to respect that even though it might mean you might get treated poorly & third wheeled/shafted w/o him/her introducing your self to a one of their friends? Even if it eats you up on the inside? Hypothetically speaking.

[HeyYou]

I don't really care about social conventions..... but then, I'm not really someone you would want to bring home to meet your parents either...... :) I don't care what social circles my friends run in. So long as we have something to base our friendship on, that's all the really matters. (I have several friends that would normally be considered several levels above my current social status, but, neither I, nor they, care.)

 

If a friend finds a significant other, (that hadn't had one before....) its highly likely that they are going to be spending more time with them, than they do with you...... That's just the way it goes. I either hang out with someone else, or, find something else to occupy my time.

[pricelessppp]

I don't really care about social conventions..... but then, I'm not really someone you would want to bring home to meet your parents either...... :smile: I don't care what social circles my friends run in. So long as we have something to base our friendship on, that's all the really matters. (I have several friends that would normally be considered several levels above my current social status, but, neither I, nor they, care.)

 

If a friend finds a significant other, (that hadn't had one before....) its highly likely that they are going to be spending more time with them, than they do with you...... That's just the way it goes. I either hang out with someone else, or, find something else to occupy my time.

I don't care about social statues. I don't see the point of inviting people to the house that I would get invested in the friendship then ditch over a girl or boy. How does one legitimately get a serious girlfriend himself when out in about? W/O going through being friends-zoned constantly or rejected constantly? How can i convince family that I don't want to go through being friends-zoned & have a 100 female friends? Also I find friendship making real draining as one sec we could be good friends but the next he/she gets a bf/gf & they want to make out in front of me hypothetically. Its more easy & less time consuming i'm not antisocial i'm just a bit cautious who I let in my life or whom i would start to date. I woulnd't want some temporary person to be invited to my house or his/her house or apartment. Also its more easy for someone with some social anxiety to make friends off the internet PSN/XBOX/STEAM Etc. But then again you can't physically see those folks & everyone seems to get drunk or get involved with sinister folks like you hear on the local news.

[HeyYou]

 

I don't really care about social conventions..... but then, I'm not really someone you would want to bring home to meet your parents either...... :smile: I don't care what social circles my friends run in. So long as we have something to base our friendship on, that's all the really matters. (I have several friends that would normally be considered several levels above my current social status, but, neither I, nor they, care.)

 

If a friend finds a significant other, (that hadn't had one before....) its highly likely that they are going to be spending more time with them, than they do with you...... That's just the way it goes. I either hang out with someone else, or, find something else to occupy my time.

I don't care about social statues. I don't see the point of inviting people to the house that I would get invested in the friendship then ditch over a girl or boy. How does one legitimately get a serious girlfriend himself when out in about? W/O going through being friends-zoned constantly or rejected constantly? How can i convince family that I don't want to go through being friends-zoned & have a 100 female friends? Also I find friendship making real draining as one sec we could be good friends but the next he/she gets a bf/gf & they want to make out in front of me hypothetically. Its more easy & less time consuming i'm not antisocial i'm just a bit cautious who I let in my life or whom i would start to date. I woulnd't want some temporary person to be invited to my house or his/her house or apartment. Also its more easy for someone with some social anxiety to make friends off the internet PSN/XBOX/STEAM Etc. But then again you can't physically see those folks & everyone seems to get drunk or get involved with sinister folks like you hear on the local news.

 

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. :)

 

I have dated a lot of women. A couple of them I actually married. Most of them we dated for a few months, or a year or so, and went our separate ways, for whatever reason. Some of my ex-girlfriends are still really good friends. So are my ex-wives...... :) Some of the women I have dated, simply fell off the face of the planet as well, and after we broke up, I never heard from them again. That's ok, that's life.

[Mudran]

Sorry for reviving a bit older thread - I'm not sure if I understand the OP, but about b) part - I usually do respect serious couples, maybe it is not healthy but I try to avoid them. From my experience they argue a lot and anyone near to them gets involved, so staying out of that is more comfortable for me. Also after having serious relationship myself it is getting a bit complicated for me too. I know I should keep old friendships, but sooner or later you will get involved more and more in the world of your partner and old friendships tied to your previous hobbies simply fades away. Which shouldn't be like that, but I don't know how to solve it. Meeting other couples became a bit boring for me, so I guess the time when you break up and are single again has the bright sides :p

 

several ex-wives? man, who you are - an actor? :) or maybe it is just not so popular in eastern europe to get married.

[HeyYou]

Sorry for reviving a bit older thread - I'm not sure if I understand the OP, but about b) part - I usually do respect serious couples, maybe it is not healthy but I try to avoid them. From my experience they argue a lot and anyone near to them gets involved, so staying out of that is more comfortable for me. Also after having serious relationship myself it is getting a bit complicated for me too. I know I should keep old friendships, but sooner or later you will get involved more and more in the world of your partner and old friendships tied to your previous hobbies simply fades away. Which shouldn't be like that, but I don't know how to solve it. Meeting other couples became a bit boring for me, so I guess the time when you break up and are single again has the bright sides :tongue:

 

several ex-wives? man, who you are - an actor? :smile: or maybe it is just not so popular in eastern europe to get married.

Nope. Not an actor. Don't play one on TV either. :)

 

My first marriage fell apart because I was stupid. My second marriage, I really wish I knew what happened. Guess she just found someone she liked better, (or, determined that she *could* find someone she liked better) and next think I knew, she had filed for divorce. I didn't contest it. We even used the same lawyer. I haven't gotten married a third time, nor do I intend to. I have been with my current Lady for about 15 years now. She would *like* to get married, but, due to financial considerations, that isn't likely to happen.

[Mudran]

OK, my apologies, I know quite a lot of people like that.

[HeyYou]

OK, my apologies, I know quite a lot of people like that.

No worries. :) It's all history.

[Fkemman11]

Haven't had a friend to hang out with in so many years that I forgot what it's like. Not that I don't try to befriend anyone, it's just that they seem to always be wary of making new friends or something. I don't really care most of the time because I have always been able to enjoy myself alone doin' my thing. But once in awhile it does bother me that no one wants to be my buddy and just hang out. Guess I'm kinda boring or something. ;)

[HeyYou]

Haven't had a friend to hang out with in so many years that I forgot what it's like. Not that I don't try to befriend anyone, it's just that they seem to always be wary of making new friends or something. I don't really care most of the time because I have always been able to enjoy myself alone doin' my thing. But once in awhile it does bother me that no one wants to be my buddy and just hang out. Guess I'm kinda boring or something. :wink:

There is a lot to be said for being boring. I had friends that were 'exciting', but, after a few visits by officer UNfriendly, that got old quick. Now, I enjoy my boring life. :) I am perfectly content to stay home, play my games, play with mods, or other things of that nature. One of the reasons I live where I do. (out in the sticks) Folks don't just 'show up', without calling first. :D